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Off Again, On Again

I’m not usually the stop and start kind of gal, but in this case, it happened and I’ll try not to let it happen again. After taking a break from all things online dating, I tried real dating. Sort of. Long distance is better than cyberspace, isn’t it? Things went well, he knows how to treat a lady, but in the end, we were running two very different races.

So…  I jumped back in the pond. Not that I’m expecting a catch or anything. I do it more to amuse myself. I’ve been gone a while and some changes have been made to the site during that time, not all of them good. I will not discuss them now, but rest assured that I will address those issues in a later post.

My grievance this night is that of the options available when stating ones religion. I have “Christian-Other” marked off. Some people have “Catholic” others “Sikh”. That’s alright with me. Here in Canada, we are granted the freedom of religion through our Charter of Rights and Freedoms. But one option that keeps popping up over and over is “Other Religion”.

Now, before you go off saying how many faiths there are, let me explain that I thought the list of options to be quite exhaustive. Most people just use “Not Religious” and be done with it. I don’t get this “Other Religion” thing. What other religion? What sort of far out, wacky religion do these people belong to?

Here’s my opinion: the people who fall under the category of “Other Religion” do not, in fact, belong to a religion at all, but they are merely so self-centred, self-serving that they worship only themselves. Of course, self-worship is not listed as an option, so “Other Religion” is the only viable option. Now if only these men would clarify this in their profiles, it would save a lot of women a lot of trouble and heartache.

Glory! Hallelujah!

There is at least one intelligent man on Plenty of Fish and he sent me a message.  Yes, ME!  After receiving a “Hey gorgeous, wanna go for coffee sometime?” from a 42 year old guy, I was beginning to question my own sanity in keeping my profile active and then this guy comes along.

The first thing he asked was about my tattoo.  Ask away!  I’ll tell anyone about my tattoo (and in case you can’t read it, it says “Send me” with scripture reference to Isaiah 6:8).  I find that most people who are proud of their tats are pretty open about them.  I am one such person.  Two years inked and I’m still proud… and off topic, apparently.

So he asks about my tattoo and I respond.  In the next message he tells me about his ink and asks how I came to Christ.  Now that is a good question!  Don’t ask me out for coffee in your first message.  I’m most likely to ignore you completely.  I’m not out for a one night stand!  I want to get to know you a little bit before I put my life in your hands.  How am I to know you’re not a dirty, filthy pervert?  Besides, if I went out for coffee with every random guy on Plenty of Fish who asked, I’d have a lot of dates and what is sure to be a trail of broken hearts behind me.  Yes, I am just that good.

So my faith in cyber-dating has been renewed for the time being.  Not all men are total losers or perverts!  Yay-hooray!

So you think I’m cute…

Word of advice.  Don’t send a girl an email just because you think she’s cute.  I can’t tell you how many messages I’ve had from men with whom I have absolutely nothing in common but the fact that we live in the same general vicinity.

I had a bite yesterday.  The first line, “hey beautiful, how it going?”  Aside from the lack of capital letters and proper spelling, there are several things wrong with this line.  I don’t mind if you think I’m beautiful, but don’t call me a pet name before you get to know me.  And, by the way, it going well.

The guy proceeds to ask me how long of been on PoF (Plenty of Fish – for those of you who are acronymically challenged). I tell him and then he asks if I have MSN and offers me his contact information. “ok, so wht would you say if i ask you to add me msn?” My response: “I’d wonder what you’re hoping to get out of chatting after you’ve read my profile. Not that I don’t want to chat, but I’ve had a lot of people want to chat and I can’t figure out why…” And then I gave him my email address. He never added me to MSN and never sent another message.

Here’s the problem when people pay attention to looks only.  I’m a good girl.  A church-going, Bible-studying missionary.  If you have a home brewery and spend your weekends at the pub, I can tell you right now that we are not compatible.  Sure, we may have good conversation and there could be the possibility that we enjoy each other’s company, but let’s be honest here, we’re not really on this site looking for buddies.

I’ve come to the conclusion that most women who take part in online dating are looking for romance, someone to spend time with, someone to keep them company.  Most men are looking for something a little different and that doesn’t usually spend endless evenings in a coffee shop talking.

While I believe that physical attraction can play an important role in the beginnings of a new relationship, to base your choices solely on looks just shows how shallow you really are.

Don’t message me just because you think I’m cute.  You’re not going to get into my pants with flattery.

Little Miss Virgin

That’s me. The virgin. The twenty-seven year old virgin. And, believe it or not, it’s by choice.

Though online matching is nothing new to me, I’ve recently opened a new chapter of my forray into cyber-dating. I’m an eHarmony girl. Or, was until my subscription expired at the end of March. I’d been an eHarmony girl for three years. Three years!

EHarmony was my mom’s idea. We were in the middle of planning my baby sister’s wedding when my mom called me up at work one day. Valentine’s day. I think she felt sorry for me. It was a good thing that my job required little to no effort and on that day, no attention at all. My mom took me through the entire online survey all the while telling me that this was a good thing and I was bound to meet my match. Well, I met a match. I met over five hundred matches. Or at least five hundred men were matched with me. Whether or not they wished to communicate with me was another story entirely.

The entries that are to follow are the stories I’ve collected over the last three years mixed in with the new stories I’m currently collecting. Gone are the days of deeply compatible matches. Plenty of Fish is my new domain. If you’re a man within fifty kilometres of yours truly, you’re a 97% match! Apparently gender and distance are the only things that really matter. Men and women are reduced to screennames including at least one capital letter and one numerical character. Why hello, MrCanada49! HotStuff1, I bet you’re my match. But wait, Allthatandabagofchips89 just sent me a message. Maybe he’s the one for me.

Join me if you will on an adventure and let’s see if Little Miss Virgin really can find her match!