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5 Words

I’m frustrated. At first I was tired, overworked and overwhelmed by all the wrong things. But I’ve been challenged lately by some amazing pastors. God has been changing things in and all around me. I’ve seen some people accept those changes with grace and they go with the flow. I’ve seen other people rebuke those changes and they fall away. I want to embrace those changes and run with them!

Here’s what I know: I was born a spirit in a human body with a human nature. Bad. God knew that I would never be worthy in and of myself, so He made a way to make me worthy. Jesus. Jesus Christ – the Word of God made flesh – took my human nature and replaced it with His. What is His nature? Love. (Isn’t it amazing how churchy people always want to give a long answer to everything when all you really need is one word?) What do I have to do to access that new nature? Believe. And all I God asks of me? Go.  So here’s the life of a Christian in 5 words: Bad. Jesus. Love. Believe. Go.

Bad: putting up a fight when God tells me to do something, ignoring Him, disobeying Him.

Jesus: walking right beside me, carrying me when I just can’t do it on my own, faithful.

Love: amazing, never-ending, grace, good.

Believe: no questions asked, always – not just when I feel like it.

Go: run ahead with the call of God, no standing still, no easy pace – this is a race and I intend to win it.

I’ve come to learn that I don’t ask for enough. If Joshua could pray for the sun to stand still and God answered his prayer, I’m pretty sure I’ve been thinking too small. But in the asking, also comes obedience. I cannot expect God to answer a sun-stand-still prayer if I’m not standing in the right place. Maybe we, as the Church, don’t see our prayers answered because we are praying the wrong prayer while standing in the wrong place.

Here’s the new prayer – God, show me the right place to be at the right time. Send people across my path who need to know You. Give me faith and boldness to show them who Jesus truly is. Grow my faith. Grow my church. Grow my vision so that I can see beyond my own life because my life without You is of no value. I want to be an asset, not a liability.

The Way I See It #76

“The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating – in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitaion. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life.” ~ Anne Morriss Starbucks Customer

Of all the things that I think are wrong with society today, I think that a lack of commitment tops the list. People commit only as long as it is convenient for them. Perhaps this ties in to yesterday’s post on illiteracy (a.k.a. self-centredness). When a relationship is no longer beneficial or requries too much work, people simply check out. As a result, we have a short-term society.

Our lives are tucked neatly into 30-60 minute segments (dependant on whether your life is a sitcom or prime-time drama). When things get a little uncomfortable, we merely flick a button and change the channel and our lives rush forward in a new direction leaving a whirlwind of broken relationships in our wake.

Husbands no longer feel the need to love their wives and wives no longer honour their husbands. Children do not obey their parents and we all do as we please with no thought at all to those who surround us. We are more apt to commit to a weekly reality tv show than we are to a real, flesh and blood human being. Imagine life if we fought as hard for our relationships as some have played a game to win a million dollars…

Anne Morriss is a genuis. I wish it had been I who’d come up with the quote I started this post with. So many people view commitment as being tied down, unable to be themselves. This is where our view is so incredibly defective. It is when we commit ourselves, not just in part, but in whole, that we are liberated from the old ball and chain, so to speak. If we are committed to a person and that person to us, all fear and hesitancy should dissolve. Too many people are too slow to trust and too quick to think the worst of everything and everyone.

You may think what do I, a single twentysomething, know about commitment? I have never been in a long-term relationship, never been married and have no children. I’d like to call myself a professional observer. In my wait for lifetime commitment in the form of a loving marriage relationship, I have been paying close attention to those relationships around me. I have taken note of things that work and made a point to remember the things that don’t. I have concluded that the most satisfying relationships are those where both parties have thrown caution to the wind. This is not running headlong into a relationship with eyes closed! This is entering a union with eyes wide open and clinging to it with body, mind and soul leaving nothing to question. It is when everything is bared and on the table that relationships are most successful. To say, “Here I am, all of me. I want you and all that comes with you. If you look at all this and you still want me, we can make this work.” I believe that we would find the world to be happier, more safe and secure if more people would apply this to their relationships rather than trying to build on the illusions of what we perceive those around us want from us.

Here I am, this is me, like it or not! Lay it on the line. Commit! Take a risk and be yourself for once! You may find it oddly satisfying.